Our ego watch subject today is desire, wanting. No doubt lots of us are extremely aware of wanting in a very negative way, in that we are, lots of us, feeling the pinch as a result of the recession “double-whammy”. No doubt you’ve read recently about how living standards are falling. Last night I was listening on the radio to heart-rending accounts of the difficulties people were experiencing in trying to make ends meet here in the UK. To say, in this context, that “wanting” is an ego characteristic may seem very heartless. Yet this is what happens. Survival behaviour is typical ego, whatever it is about, since the ego is all about keeping us safe. So it will worry about our situation.

“Wanting” in this context is being aware of lack, what is missing, and wanting to have it. It can show in all sorts of ways, like wanting to get a business project going and then as it doesn’t seem to be getting going as you’d like, you start to worry about it, and then the sense of wanting becomes a negative one as opposed to an optimistic one. Or you might find yourself looking with envy at others who seem to be “doing OK”. What we’d be doing here is making a comparison between our perceived lack and what we think others have. Wanting is strongly deficit need, based subtly on a sense of personal inadequacy. There’s often a belief that “there’s not enough”, as opposed to abundance thinking, which can link in fast with “I’m not good enough”, since we often blame ourselves for the situation, if we don’t blame others. In Law of attraction terms, wanting places a distance between us and what we want. If experienced negatively, it attracts negatively. So we push away what we want, we block the door through which the abundant universe is sending us what we want, and instead we get more of what we fear since our thoughts are often focused more in that direction.

Many successful entrepreneurs that I have met have testified to this. Behind many successful entrepreneurs is also a succession of failures. They know well what can happen when they get into this state. Nothing happens.

So the key point is to shift your state. Let go of wanting in the negative sense of awareness of lack. Shift your thinking to what it is you are creating. Re-state your goals and take action on them: “feel the fear and do it anyway”, as the saying goes. Get out your vision statement, dust it down and focus on visualising the desired outcome. Thinking about what you are good at, your worth, your strengths and where you can be successful, and focus on that. Let go of attachment to “it isn’t working”. The universe is ever-abundant. We’re just struggling with that at the moment. Time to let it go, despite what seems to be going on. Every time we go back down a negative spiral, let it, stop that line of thinking, and re-focus. It is a battle of wills, since a lot of this is about will. But it is also about letting go and shifting state, a much more subtle movement within, where we become aware of who we really are and work from That space, an alteration of awareness. Connected to Source, we then have access to our own power within. Then what so often happens is that we see things differently, and new possibilities open up and we have more energy to take action.

These are testing times, but out of this come powerful learnings, about ourselves and about what we can create, and how we can create it, from an authentic state of Being.

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