Reflecting further on generosity, I’ve often noticed how it seems to be the people who have least who are the most generous and helpful towards their fellow humans. I was talking with a coachee who had been on a charity fund-raising drive across Asia and how he had driven through very remote regions and hit all sorts of problems along the way. However, what most struck him was how invariably friendly people were, hospitable and willing to help them fix their problems with their car. He told me it was particularly so amongst those who appeared to have not a bean to their name. They just gave of their hearts, with a smile.
I’ve also watched these TV programs where western women have gone to stay with tribes in remote corners of the world and how generally these people are happy and contented. Again, by western standards they are desperately poor, but that isn’t a concept they hold. What they have in particular is joy, in abundance, laughter, fun, humour, light-heartedness. I remember one program in particular where the western woman, after a while of living with them I think it was on the edge of the desert in Kenya, began to cry. The kindness and joy of these people contrasted so strongly with her own experience of life. The people she was staying with were aghast: “Why is she crying? What can be the matter? What is wrong for her?” Such an unhappy state was alien for them. All they knew was being happy. That was how people should be and were.
What has our so-called civilisation lost that we live in the midst of such unhappiness and unkindness here in the west? It’s like we’ve lost touch with ourselves at a fundamental level. Joy and generosity are part of who we are, but for so many of us, that’s not our experience of so-called “reality”.
This is one reason why it is so important, and so urgent, that we start looking within, at our real Source of happiness.

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