I find it very useful from time to time to re-read books I’ve read before, not necessarily from cover to cover but maybe dip in and out of. I was so re-reading Marianne Williamson’s book “A Return to Love”, based on her teachings from A Course in Miracles. One sentence jumped out for me (it’s full of sentences like that!): “As ministers of God, we let our careers be an expression of our own depth, of what really matters to us. Knowing that we are acting on behalf of a higher purpose than our own self-aggrandizement gives us the joy we are all seeking”.
I find that thoughts like this tend to jump out just at the right time. They can be like sanity-checks, or wake-up calls, or awareness-raisers that put us in touch with a higher reality for a moment. What am I doing all this for, what is the point of it all?
Many will right now be wondering that. It is as though the fruits of their labours have suddenly gone up in smoke leaving them without the familiar sign-posts and with no clear indicators of where they are supposed to be going. When you’ve lost your job in the middle of some major upheaval like now, that is very likely the experience. Or you’ve experienced a natural or man-made disaster and all that you had has gone. Or you’ve just lost someone suddenly and unexpectedly, and everything that you took for granted has somehow seemingly evaporated. Nothing is the same any more.
It is that what matters to us has gone and we are left without clear guidelines. People can feel lost, disorientated, confused, angry, frustrated, bewildered. They may get stuck in wanting the old state to return, the “normal” to resume business as usual. Except it won’t. Nothing stays the same. As Buddhists say, all is impermanent. What is crucial is how we deal with it.
These occasions are wake-up calls. They are very important. They may be times for you or I to review where we are going, what we are about and what we want, to look at our values and, due to the enormity of the situation, to really get clear what we fundamentally are all about. How much that issue gets addressed can make all the difference to the level of meaning that is gained from the situation.
For example, I might spend years chasing my career and find it all collapses and I am left needing to rebuild anew. As I look back at what I was doing, I might suddenly see that what I was really doing was chasing some money-cart, forever just out of reach until it crashes and I find there’s nothing there – the cart was empty!! It was an illusion, a state of mind. So I start to review what I’ve being doing, dig deep within and get clear that there is some deeper purpose that I now need to serve. The age of materialism had masked my real purpose from view.
Had any experience like that? Been chasing some illusion?
No matter. What’s key is the realisation of what is really important, as Marianne says, what really matters, higher than self-aggrandizement.
I don’t know what occurs for you. For me, it’s a rush of blood, like my heart leaps, a sense of joy, an aliveness, an upliftment. I feel all at once totally clear and content, like everything has meaning once more.
Among other things, Marianne is making the point that, to have meaning our lives, our careers, what we do, where we are, our choices, need to be aligned with what matters to us. If what you do, the actions you take, the choices you make are not so aligned, you will know it at some level of your being. There’s a disconnection from truth, from who you are.
So these events that come along are perhaps meant to remind you once more of who you really are, to “re-mind” you, to realign your thoughts, to re-connect you with truth.
Do you have this challenge at the moment?
It can be in any aspect of your life, where deep inside you know you are not being true to who you are. The challenge won’t go away. It will keep poking through the veils of illusion, prompting you towards your ultimate reality. How much longer will you go on avoiding it, a-void-ing it?
The Void, what we fear, is actually a place of deep peace. That is perhaps the paradox of life.
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