Self confidence in the face of adversity is an admirable trait many of us would probably like to have and not many probably possess. How often do you find something difficult happens and you are consumed by anxiety, self doubt, anger or upset? Do you not wish you had that inner strength that will carry you through, or at least worry that if something unpleasant happens you won’t be able to cope?
Yet in history when certain nations have been beset by adversity, a leader has emerged to carry them through, one who held an aura of confidence that inspired others. It is a much valued leadership trait, and perhaps rare. Winston Churchill comes to my mind as regards the UK, or perhaps Roosevelt for the USA in the 2nd World War. In the UK’s situation it was when facing seemingly inevitable invasion and then through the long, difficult years of bombing until the tide turned. Churchill, himself a depressive, nevertheless had the strength within him to inspire a nation. You could probably think of others.
Looking at one’s own personal situation, self confidence and self belief give an anchor, an inner knowing that enables us to meet our challenges. It is that inner knowledge that you can do it, you have what it takes and that you will come through and all will be well. It’s a kind of trust of self. This is not necessarily an outward show, and that helps, but more a certainty within.
So the value of building self confidence and self belief is that it gives you an invaluable resource for any challenges that may come. So, when times are good, and things are going OK, this is every bit as important in terms of self development as the tougher times. This is when it pays to work on those areas where we are prone to self doubt and turn them to our advantage. This will depend on the individual, but you could for example choose where to challenge yourself in order to increase your confidence. One friend asked me to show him how to climb trees to help him overcome a fear of heights. He only told me he has this fear when we got to the top! He had in past avoided doing this. Another I know does a lot of public speaking and yet I know that historically he’s a shy person. He has learned to confront his fears and knows he can now achieve a lot more. It’s like his comfort boundary has massively expanded. What the resource is you have to ask, but I suspect it is an inner knowing that’s he’s OK in any situation. Doing such things equips you with additional skills and this in itself means there’s more you can do. When you know you can do it, and know you can find a way to do it, you have gained a level in confidence you didn’t previously possess.
This is the sort of resource acquistion I’m thinking of, giving yourself more skills that adds to your belief in your capability. In turn it rubs off on your confidence levels in general and you come across accordingly as more impactful and as one who can inspire others in some way. Study the careers of successful people and you will find some adversity they had to overcome to be as they became, and they needed to equip themselves with particular resources to do this.
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