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How to be present when others are losing it

Do you struggle to know how to be present with someone when they are upset or angry, or when you are tired or going through it yourself? I’m very often struck by how people can lack the ability to “be with” people emotionally, especially those who work professionally with people in challenging situations. It’s like our buttons get pushed or we feel inadequate or lack the resources we need. Somehow, people say, they “aren’t qualified” to handle it.

It will be all right

It will be all right

When people kick off

I remember once on a Gestalt training course unpacking a whole load of grief around the impact of divorce on my contact with my younger son, and how I verbalised it to the group in a way that the facilitator later said she was “out of it” for the duration of my work. I recall she was a parent herself. So this can challenge even seasoned professionals. Luckily I had another who  worked with me.

Yet this doesn’t just apply to professionals. Anybody can face this at times. What about when your partner kicks off about some hurt or pain and it’s you that happens to be there – and they need you to be there? What do you do? Do you do what so many do, and shift about uncomfortably, tell people “not to mind” and “it will be OK”, and not get upset, etc? Who are you really helping here, the person kicking off, or actually you yourself? Are you really telling them to stop?

What we don’t like is being faced with powerful emotions that tap into our own stuff, especially if it touches our own doubts and inadequacies. Yet, there are resources available, if you choose to access them.

Being resourceful: self awareness and self management

One is self awareness and self management, in this case the ability to be aware of your own process and how your buttons can get triggered by other people’s stuff. It helps to know yourself enough to know what is your stuff in this situation, of course! This is often all about personal development – that doing your own journey bit, dare I say, that many of us are today afraid to do. It is also about how you self manage, in this case choose not to get caught up in your own stuff but put it on one side, the rule of epoché in Gestalt terms.

Presence

Another is the ability to be present, to be right there in the moment, thoughts and feelings on pause (I’ll say more about that in a moment), in the “here and now”, still in yourself, centred, at One as I keep writing on this blog, connected with some energy  centre or chakra within like your heart centre region or, in the case of powerful emotion, perhaps your power centre in the  solar plexus region. So that you are aligned with  Source as you are “with” another. “Being with” is all about being present with them. So you are truly “with” them, in support, with mind, body and soul, right there in the moment.

Empathy and respect

Your stance matters hugely too. So think about  it. Here is needed Carl Rogers’ empathy and unconditional positive regard. So you respect utterly the  other person right there where they are and what is going on for them. No judgement (this can be tough, but it really matters). No conditions attached. In fact  you  are unattached to everything, including how you feel. You have to let go of all that. And you empathise with them, which is to seek as far as humanly possible to see things from their perspective, although  you cannot “know how they feel”. Thus you can hear their story. And you hear it like you get it. So that they feel heard, which is what so many people need. They may not need to be fixed (which is what so many men try to do  with  women, by the way!). Here’s where you truly stop and be with them in their pain.

Then they will feel supported. You don’t have to take their side, or agree with them, or blame them. Just be there. In peace, bringing peace. Om shanti.

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Do you worry that your mind keeps you awake?

It’s a dilemma when you can’t sleep at night because your mind is busy, and then you start to worry that your mind is keeping you awake. Your mind might be churning things over and then you’re fearful that it is doing this and stopping you sleeping. Worrying that we can’t sleep is a major factor in insomnia, and having a busy mind is a major contributor to the problem. It’s a very good reason to learn to manage your mind and is where mindfulness can be so powerful.

You might for example lie down after a busy day in which you have been very mentally active and then find yourself staying awake, unable to sleep, or so it seems, your mind going over certain issues that are concerning you. Then, as time ticks by, and the thought that you need to be up early comes to you, there’s that stabbing feeling in your gut as you feel the anxiety that this thinking is keeping you awake, that you’ve got a sleepless night ahead and that you still have to get up early. It’s like that deadline gives you an imperative that you must sleep and you believe you need that sleep, and still you’re thinking things over, and you’re worried that you’re doing it!

Time to pause and get what’s going on! And let go!

Not so easy until you’ve done some work on all this and can see the pattern, what you’re doing to yourself, and can interrupt that pattern and work to manage your thoughts and let go. It takes, in a sense, training and practice.

The idea that we can manage our thoughts can be a challenging one to people who feel they are prisoners to their thoughts. Yet this is precisely what we need to do. Very often it is about becoming aware that your mind is busy, catching yourself doing it, challenging the pattern and stopping it in some way. It is something that can be consciously done, but as I said, it needs awareness – and coaching.

Mindfulness practice plays a big part, learning to be aware of your thoughts but not caught up in them. With mindfulness you can become the aware witness of your thoughts, but unattached to them, so that they can pass you by. This too takes practice, and meditation is a very valuable tool to help you learn to do it effectively.

Then you know you have inside you a calm, steady, centred place that you can go to. You can learn to let go of thinking and be still and in the moment. You can let go of thinking and of anxiety too, and be present. You can be unattached to deadlines, and to how things “ought” to be, and just let things be, just as they are.

As you calm yourself and let go of thoughts, you can then let your natural sleepiness to come to you, of its own accord.

Just as we can have bliss be present too, our natural joy and contentment.

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Are we losing our ability to have empathy and to connect?

We must have all done it, a family gathering at Christmas and at a quiet moment you come into the room and everybody is on their phones or tablets, with snippets of conversation in between. Perfectly normal, you might think: everybody is wishing friends a Happy Christmas. Except that that is what occurs a lot right through the year where people are together or alone. This world is now getting brilliantly connected. Yet do we notice any disconnect with others we’re with?

Being a big user myself but also a coach of relationship and interpersonal dynamics, I’m frequently observing what occurs in the use of the gadget in one’s hand. As the law now recognises, people can’t effectively concentrate on driving and use a mobile phone. The focus gets drawn into the latter and people miss crucial and sudden events on the road, with sometimes fatal results. When we focus on our gadget, our attention is drawn away from what is occurring around us.Thus we are at best only partially present to those around us. To another, it can feel, if they are so bothered, that “the lights are on but nobody is at home”.

The “inner world” of the phone or tablet is very absorbing. It is also very addictive. It’s now reckoned that people up to the age of 18 now spend over 7 hours a day so connected. However, more concerning is the potential cost to interpersonal relationships. It has been found from social-scientific studies by Sarah Konrath that there are now 40% lower levels of empathy for the age group under 30, that is roughly the so-called Generation Y, than earlier age groups had. It is also being suggested that people are losing the ability to cope with “doing nothing” and where we don’t have a distraction.

Empathy is arguably the crucial area of development for people interpersonally, and a fundamental aspect of emotional intelligence. As we grow and mature, we realise more and more the need to understand and relate to others and take their needs into account. Empathy is the ability to tune into another and get a sense of where they are coming from, to gain some awareness of their perspective. Without “social awareness”, people can struggle to connect at a meaningful level and others may sense they do not really have a relationship with them in a way that fulfills.

Being connected with others is not a digital occurrence although that is one way we can communicate. What is crucial is the ability to be present and aware of another, right now, in the moment, person to person, in the room, with all our senses engaged, and with our thinking, feeling and behaviour. We hear, see, feel, smell and taste another. Psychologically we are “there” for another, available, conscious, valuing, caring. We notice what happens for another. We respond appropriately. We become attuned and resonate, and become as one.

You don’t get all that from a screen.

The challenge is that there are many who don’t have good levels of empathy. It’s a major weakness for those in business, for example. Leaders who lack empathy are poor leaders at the people level. If you are in a job where people skills matter, it can be costly. In personal relationships it is what makes for a good relationship: how often do you hear people complain that their partners are not “there” for them when they need them?

The danger is that people don’t know what they are not aware of. Thus building self awareness is an important starting point, and getting feedback from others.

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How hard do you find it to step back to see whats going on for you?

We can be so caught up in the drama of what’s happening in our lives that we can find it difficult to step back to see whats going on, and yet this is a crucial step to take in regaining control for ourselves. This is an invaluable skill of mindfulness, metacognition, to see what you are thinking, feeling and sensing as it happens. To do that we need to be able to step back from the content of our minds. Yet, for many of us that can seem impossible: “I can’t”, people often say.

It is first important to develop awareness of the way this occurs for us, being “caught up” as I call it. What I mean by this is how we might feel very involved in some issue and yet it has got hold of us somehow, such that we are emotionally involved, attached to it some would say, in ways that aren’t perhaps so good or useful for us.

A classic way many of us would know is where we get “wound up” with an issue, lets say angry or irritated, and we keep on with something, even when a part of us knows it isn’t working, and we persist in making others wrong, having an air of complaint or grievance, feeling injured, holding on to a sense of self-righteousness despite the existence of evidence to the contrary, and general dissatisfaction. This can feel almost compulsive, like we’re driven to do it.

There are others ways too that we can get attached to our dramas in life, familiar patterns that we slot into, old habits that we’ve learned and which we do without having awareness of them.

This is where mindfulness training, and crucially its practice, is so important. The more you can develop awareness of what you do, the more you can find ways to release yourself. So the very fact of describing a process to another, in say coaching, is doing just that, providing a means by which the mind can be aware of itself. Then you can use mindfulness to gradually become aware of other less useful patterns too.

With mindfulness we seek to develop the ability, which we can often have already, to become aware of our process. Once we’ve got greater awareness we can then begin to see  how we’ve put it there, how we do it in a sense, and we can learn to control what we pay attention to. You can for example learn to notice yourself going off on your number, and re-focus your attention.

This needs training and coaching to be able to do, and to see how it operates for us as individuals since we are all unique, so that we can then practice it, since we need to use the techniques over time to unhook from old habits and learn new ones, with support from your coach, so that you can learn to free yourself and know more of who you really are.

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Being mindful of what you are thinking feeling and sensing

I’ve recently been preparing a new mindfulness course and in the process reflecting on what for me was one of the most invaluable things I learned from mindfulness many years ago, that of what is called metacognition. This is where your mind is aware that you are thinking, feeling and sensing as it is happening. For me, this experience of being mindful, once I had learned how to practice it, was truly transformative.

At the time I knew it as “witnessing”, since my training had also been with people versed in certain traditions that integrated Eastern mysticism with Western Transpersonal Psychology. There the Witness was also Atman, the Self. However, you don’t have to be associated with any particular tradition to use this approach. Once you become more fully conversant with the witness state, you then start to discover much more profound states of being.

However, for secular mindfulness training, being the observer or witness is in itself hugely liberating. For starters it enabled me to see much more clearly into what was happening for me. It enabled me to then exercise more choice, and wiser choices, than before. It links very well with what many people call Self Awareness, the core competency of Emotional Intelligence. It has not only proved immensely useful in terms of identifying the underlying causes of my own less beneficial behaviours but also served very well in enabling me to work as a coach and group facilitator. In the latter, I trained in Gestalt and in that tradition you need to be very aware of your own process and put it on one side (the rule of epoché) to be as present and as fully aware as you can be with another. This training also involved learning to “centre” yourself, to be fully present and aware and in your body, still and focused. It was all very empowering, and there is too that sense of gaining in inner power.

Core to all this work was however the practice of meditation. When I started meditating it was in the mindfulness tradition and I used it very effectively to manage and reduce my stress as a teacher, along with doing a body scan, relaxation, yoga and exercise. Meditation really is at its most effective when practiced daily, and initially I meditated for 20 minutes in the early morning and 20 minutes after work. Only later did I get up early each morning and meditate for 45 minutes or more. It is in itself a mindfulness practice, where you can use the breath as a focus and learn to take your attention away from your thoughts and back to your breath, or a mantra. The continued practice of this is fabulous for training the mind to let go of thoughts and to direct attention to what is more fruitful. With practice too, the focus of the breath or the mantra fades and you can get to experience deeper awarenesses of being. In meditation can lie the whole practice of mindfulness, which you can practice not just in the meditation but in life as a whole.

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Be present and aware and start enjoying your life

You must just pause a moment and check where your mind has been focused over the last hour or half-hour. How much do you let yourself really be present and aware with what’s happening right now? For example, if you’re travelling to or from work, how much do you notice what’s around you, who you are with, what’s going on? Or is your mind preoccupied, such as with what’s been happening, or what might happen? Are you off ruminating about things? Is your mind doing what is habitually does?

So, take a deep breath or two, become really aware, let go of those thoughts and give yourself a moment to really be present and aware of this moment….and this moment…and this one too.

When people are dying they often express regret that they didn’t do the simple things in life, like being with their loved ones, enjoying a sunset, spending time in their favourite place, just taking pleasure in being alive.

We’re so often away with our thoughts about the workplace, what’s going on, worrying about might happen, catastrophising, being irritated with what someone did or didn’t do, and the million and one other thoughts we have that fill our mind and can give us grief. Just check again with the suggestion I made at the start of this post, and recall what you have been thinking about recently and see whether it fits a pattern. It can be useful to spot these patterns and interrupt them.

Mindfulness involves becoming present and aware, in the moment. It’s a superb tool for getting ourselves out of our preoccupations and ruminations, and getting off all those thoughts that don’t serve us. You may even already know this. But do you practice it, or does it just sit there as another idea, another “nice to do”, something I’ll “get round to sometime” (but not now)? Yet it is said that now is all you’ve got. This moment and the next. All else is our thoughts.

So spend some time right now being in the moment. Be aware of your breathing. And each time you find your mind has wandered, simply bring it back to the moment and being aware of your breathing.

And allow yourself to really enjoy this moment, and enjoy being alive, present and aware, as who you are. En-joy, breathe in the joy of this moment, and let your soul shine, as it is meant to do.

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Being mindful when all about you seem to be losing it

Can coming back to work after a period away, say on holiday, be a bit of a shock or unsettling in some way for you? You might be feeling all peaceful and calm and then suddenly all about you it’s frenetically busy and chaotic. What happens to all that peace and calm?

This is where mindfulness and being mindful equips you with the skills to be able to stay peaceful and calm when others are losing it

What can be invaluable is to have some form of mindfulness practice, which for me includes meditation. Many studies refer to this kind of practice as a “brain fitness practice”, which keeps our minds healthy and resilient. What we’re doing is consciously creating an intentionally established state of mindful awareness. With intention we sit, observe the breath and also the flow of our minds. We are open to what is, noticing feelings and thoughts come and go and yet keeping our mind’s eye on our state of awareness. Studies show that through such regular activity the brain responds by strengthening the neural connections activated at the time and we develop mindfulness as a trait. This includes regulating our bodies, attuning to others, having emotional balance, calming fear, pausing before acting, having insight and empathy, being moral or ethical in our thinking and our actions, and having more access to intuition. You develop too a capacity to monitor and modify your internal world.

Such practice fosters an aware presence, and gives us a powerful connection to our inner core of awareness that promotes resilience and inner strength in testing times.

Thus, to take time out in this way, we are creating and developing our capacity for centred awareness which enables to go about our day without being buffeted about by the stormy winds of our over-busy world.

What is your practice that consolidates your inner strength? And is it working?

There is more to this. We also need to ensure that in our everyday activities we are honouring what we practice, and that we come back regularly to our practice. Otherwise this can seem hollow and inconsistent. Mindful awareness enables us to be centred as we go about our day. For me, one brilliant thing about such practices is that I can take them with me and practice them when I choose.

Recently I was taking part in an organisational development process, and I was helping to observe and measure people’s “behaviours”. I won’t go into detail, yet will just note that being with masses of detail and in working at speed can create chaos and confusion for some, and one or two seemed to be losing it a bit. I found that to pause and breathe in mindful awareness, just an instant, was a great support. It is something I’m often teaching to people in coaching as it works over and over again in various challenging situations. It does however require regular practice, since it taps into something that is an ongoing activity, and it tends also to need coaching to find just where it works for individuals. There’s also a whole process of exploration and discovery one to get into, such as developing awareness of one’s inner “core” that I was referring to above, such that you “know” your inner resources and you “know” your inner strength in these situations.

And, despite what people believe and say, most can do this.

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Do you find mindfulness difficult to practice?

The benefits of mindfulness practice can often seem outweighed by their pitfalls in the eyes of many who “try” it and give up, seemingly deterred by for example their very busy minds and by all the things that come up once one pauses and attends to the moment. “It’s very difficult” is a comment I hear a lot, an odd one, you might think, when all you’re being asked to do, is do nothing at all, attend to your breath and let go.

Yet it’s when we do this, be still and become aware, that we get what’s really going on. Many report that what they get is a chaos of thoughts, and an urge to get up and do something, or intense guilt at “doing nothing” like we should be “doing something useful”, or a fidgeting like we think we “can’t” keep still. After several sessions they might give up believing they aren’t getting what they started the practice to get, such as calmness of mind, or relaxation, or less stress.

What is important to realise is that mindfulness, and meditation if you are also wanting to meditate, is about sitting still, going within, attending to the breath (and/or a mantra), and being aware. What happens is part of the practice (well, it is for many teachers anyway!) and you are seeking to become the observer of your thoughts rather than “being the thinker”. What you are doing here is letting go of “doership”, thinking you are the thinker and that you “do” your thoughts. Instead, you let go of this belief and allow yourself to observe your thoughts. You are not your thoughts. You can think (!) something like, “Isn’t this interesting!”, notice yourself being engaged in thinking, and then take a deeper breath, breathe out (in a sense) the thoughts, and return your awareness to your breath. And repeat this every time you catch yourself thinking. Gradually the thoughts diminish. Yet you might still have “busy” meditations, and a lesson can be to accept these too.

Thus, with mindfulness practice, you are being aware of breathing, noticing any thoughts that arise, and returning to being aware of your breath. It is a practice and the benefits accrue over months and years. It’s not instant. We live in a “have it now” society and so it isn’t easy to make the shift and to accept that it will take time. Yet patience, acceptance and letting go are all part of what is involved and what it teaches us. Treat your practice as a time to pause, regain your equilibrium, re-balance yourself, and re-connect with your essence. Over time you will learn more and more to centre yourself, which you can live out in your life in general, and to sense inside who you really are. We live such hectic, stressful, busy lives and we get so caught up in all sorts of dramas that we lose touch with our essence. Thus we need this quiet time, this reminder, re-mind-er, to get back in touch with who we are and our real purpose and intention in life. It’s a treasure.

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Mindfulness of who you are

Recently there has been an explosion of interest in the personal development and coaching arena in the practice of mindfulness, and now anyone exploring the field will find it hard to miss some course on the subject. For the layperson however this might be just more  jargon to find your way around before you can actually find someone who can help you resolve your problem. This blog, and the courses offered on this site, have plenty to say about matters like awareness, presence, emotional intelligence and managing the mind. So what is mindfulness and what has it to do with all this other stuff? And how might it be useful anyway to anybody seeking for example to re-balance and refocus their life?

What is mindfulness?

The term is really derived from the Buddhist practice of mindfulness, or as it has been so named in the West. In Buddhist meditation, put simply, initial practice is to train oneself to be aware of your mind, or mindful, and to use a technique like focusing on your breath to refocus your mind away from the meanderings of the mind, to become present and to embrace inner stillness and the higher points of Buddhist practice. This practice is in some ways similar to meditation in the yogic traditions which, again put simply, use the breath and/or a mantra to still the mind so that the Self (Atman) can reveal Itself. In yogic practice, one of the attributes of the Self is consciousness or awareness. It is said that this mindful practice enables the mind to be aware of itself, or that one becomes aware of one’s awareness.

The term is now also being widely used in western psychology, as popularised by Jon Kabat-Zinn (eg. in The Mindful Brain and Full Catastrophe Living). It has been researched very widely and there is powerful evidence that the practice, also in a secular form, offers considerable benefits in a range of personal challenges such as anxiety, depression and stress. In fact Jon Kabat-Zinn showed brilliantly how well the technique worked in helping people successfully overcome stress, using a guided body scan and the practice of sitting and focusing on the breath. In business, people have for now for long been offered training in various forms of techniques involving sitting still, going within and observing the breath.

Learning to practice mindfulness

Dan Siegel in his work (eg. Mindsight) shows that  “mindfulness is a form of mental activity that trains the mind to become aware of awareness itself and to pay attention to one’s own intention” (Mindsight, p. 86). He goes on to say that “it teaches self-observation; practitioners are able to describe with words the internal seascape of the mind…a form of internal “tuning in” to oneself that enables people to become “their own best friend”. He also argues that this practice also has an interpersonal benefit, greatly enhancing our attunement to others.

What has been very striking is how neurological research has underlined how the brain changes positively as a result of this practice. For example the parts of the brain that regulate things like mood grow and are strengthened, stabilising the mind and enabling people to achieve emotional equilibrium and resilience. Thus one can cultivate emotional intelligence. For example the middle prefrontal areas of the brain are positively affected, which affect our ability to relate to others and regulate ourselves. Such research reinforces what many already knew from practice. This after all goes back at least 2,500 years.

This is all very core to our work. We teach people to become aware, to learn to go within, become present, attune themselves to their bodies and use the breath and/or a mantra. Then people can develop understanding of what the mind, and their mind, does, and gain an easeful mastery in that arena. Through mindfulness we focus on helping people use the power of awareness to become aware of themselves and to notice what occurs from a non-judgemental stance, and discover and become more centred in who they really are.

The Witness

We find a very useful concept is the Witness, derived from yogic practice, which at one level is the state referred to above, that part of us that observes the mind from a non-judgemental stance. This has great practical value in helping one become aware of and interrupt any pattern that they decide does not serve them.

Beyond that however, if one chooses to develop the practice, it is possible to reach a transcendental awareness or consciousness that lies at the root of the mind. This Self is not caught up in the activities of the mind and body but simply witnesses them.

Thus we can learn to liberate ourselves.

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To choose or not to choose

Pardon the Shakespearian touch, but do you find you can get so “caught up” in something that’s going on in your life that you forget you have other options as to how you might respond and deal with it, that you can choose again?

I’m thinking of how we can be so impacted by something that happens that, despite what we’ve learned, we are quickly back in the midst of our “knee-jerk” reactions, succumbing to the familiar numbers we can run. Then, like Hamlet, we no longer “be”.

Let’s say you not long ago left a job you had decided no longer fulfilled you and who you are and you moved on to something else. Then a while later, after the honeymoon, back comes some of those old patterns. Maybe you find yourself again in situations where your buttons get pushed and you flip back into your old “stuff”. We could say the same about leaving one relationship and starting another only to find the same stuff re-appears. Or moving house. It goes on.

Another way might be where you think you’ve learned something and for a few days it seems to work, and then something occurs that catches you unawares and there you are, doing “it” again. It’s a bit like your shadow following you around!

We always have a choice

What can be hard to see is that we’ve always got a choice. I’ve been often struck how we might need to remind ourselves to take responsibility and exercise choice. It can seem like we forget this when our “stuff” happens. It’s a kind of selective amnesia or a fog that takes hold, and blots out our awareness.

It’s an everyday occurrence, being presented with choices about how we deal with this or that situation. Yet we may not necessarily see that we have a choice in a particular situation and instead operate compulsively, in a sense “at the effect” of what is occurring.

It can take an effort, a real effort, to do this, to take responsibility and to choose. To choose whether to carry on being at the effect of “it”, of to take control and manage “it” differently, let go, etc.

This is one example of where I have found meditation so helpful, and the practice of mindfulness that is involved. In the process of settling in to meditate, and to focus the mind and let go of mental activity (or however you see it), we notice our mind getting absorbed in something and we return our awareness to the breath, a mantra or whatever technique you use to help you settle and centre yourself and be present and more fully aware. And keep doing this when the mind wanders.

In doing this, I might for example come into meditation with some “it” that is going on. The process of settling in to meditation, and the sustained practice of it, helps me let go of whatever “it” is. It’s like life in general. We can develop mental “muscle” this way, so that we learn we have power over our “stuff”, rather than “it” having power over us. Then over time and with practice you (or I), develop a greater ability to manage the mind, to be aware of our mental patterns and to rise above them, let them go, etc. That doesn’t mean it won’t come back, but that you know there’s a powerful tool you have available to use.

This is a decision we make, a choice we exercise. We use our will, and thus build up the power of the will. That too needs practice. The ego is so skilled in the art of selective amnesia and so we need to find ways to combat it. Thus some regular practice to “re-mind” ourselves is very important.
So just pause a moment, take a deep breath, and do a mental scan. What’s going on in your mind at the moment? What is “foreground”, close up to you? And what is “background”, further away, or running quietly? What can you feel? Is there some sense of unease, worry, sadness, depression, anger or even something else? Sometimes it is not in our minds, as it seems, but in our bodies. So tune through your body, till you sense it.

This can be familiar “stuff”, what we keep doing, but push away in order to cope day by day.

Now go and meditate, notice this pattern you’ve identified, and breathe it away, bringing your awareness to your breath and to being present and more fully aware…

Of the majesty of Who you Are.

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