Aren’t we having glorious weather here in the UK! Or is the satisfaction tinged with a qualification, like it’s too hot or stuffy, or you can’t get out to enjoy it and you’re sure it’ll be wet by the time your holiday arrives? It’s worth checking what you do with something positive that happens and whether you negate it to some degree. Taking satisfaction in what occurs is something that does not come so easily for many of us.
Being satisfied with what you have got can clash with a deeply held belief that what we have isn’t enough. We tend to think of the grass being greener on the other side. We might for example be heavily invested in the idea that we still have more to do with our lives in some way, like a higher salary, more material possessions, a certain lifestyle or a relationship. What we have now may even be a cause for dissatisfaction, like something is missing. You might from the outside have everything you need but from the inside it isn’t quite right in some way. Such dissatisfaction can eat away at you and you can get frustrated or depressed.
In some aspects of life not being satisfied with the status quo can be seen as a good thing and thus in business for example one might strive to innovate or improve, questioning whether there’s something more or better that can be done. You might notice how businesses use words like “more than” in their strap lines. While you might seek to improve your lot, you could also take satisfaction in what you’ve achieved and it is good to celebrate these. In your personal life however, and in your career even, it can be worth checking the degree of balance and whether dissatisfaction tends to predominate.
In personal development it is quite common to find people who have worked a lot on themselves and yet don’t fully engage with valuing what they have achieved and simply what they have and who they are. Self questioning can be overdone. We can get stuck in introspection and don’t engage enough with the world. We can get into spirals of questioning where what is somehow still isn’t quite right.
It might be worth exploring what the standard is against which we are making these judgements of ourselves, because the bottom line aspect might be low self-esteem, like the belief that “I’m not good enough” that can lurk hidden away inside. Thus instead we can be constantly driven, seeking, wanting, needing, and never quite getting “it”. Instead we’re “wanting of it”, the want of it.
Thus it can be vital to pause, breathe, let go and simply take in where you are at, and see what that’s like. Being in the moment and being mindful, we can appreciate what is right here, that you and I are alive, present, aware, magnificent just as we are, and this world right now is beautiful beyond measure and beyond comparison.
Now if you struggle with that notion, then it’s worth exploring where you go and what that’s really about, and deal with it. Because for some of us there’s a little voice inside that questions this kind of experience. You might for example find yourself disengaged from the experience of the moment and questioning it, or questioning yourself and your value. Being present in the moment invites us to value ourselves and see our own glory, because in being in the moment we’re being in our body, in awareness terms, and sensing and feeling ourselves. Now, if there’s an element that doesn’t like ourselves, we’ll feel it.
Thus the journey becomes one of loving oneself, as well as life, because the self and life are really One.
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